Am I Being Fooled By This Nigerian Man?

How would I know I’m being fooled by a Nigerian man and not seriously considered for marriage and living a beautiful life together for ever?

***Editor’s Note***

I get lots of short questions daily about dating Nigerian men, relationship, question about infidelity and whether you are being fooled or used. I want to dedicate this thread to questions in that category. You can post here if you have issues with Nigerian guys, whether you are confused or looking for straight tips about dating Nigerian men, this is the page for that.

We also have a comprehensive article about Naija men somewhere on this site, including information about getting married to a Nigerian guy and marital proceedings


  1. If You are being fooled by a Nigerian Man?
    I would so love to help you with this issue but I need to learn a lot more about the situation. What is he doing that prompted the question? Is he showing too much attention? Depending more on you than what is required? Do you think he is asking too much from you or taking advantage of you?

    There are many angles to thish

    1. Hi . I decided to try online dating and found many offers from Nigerian men. One who struck me was one guy slightly younger than me but was persistent. I decided to give him a try. He actually offered to get me a ticket to go see him. Am in the uk , he is living with family in Italy. It was going well until he asked me of I could boost his account in order for him to apply for a visa to come visit me then he will refund it. Now , this scared me coz how can you ask someone for money a week into a relationship and he get angry when I tell him I can’t do it coz I have been used once and I won’t do it. He swears he is genuine. I almost believe home sometimes. Now the calls are not as regular and I feel l should trust my gut instinct to drop this relationship even though it feels sweet. Am however weary of being duped and dumped . Kindly advise.

      1. I have a similar situation I’m married to a Nigerian man and now he don’t want to get a job he just keeps wanting from me I don’t know what to do

      2. Hello Sheila, it is quite revealing that this guy is not a true love neither a true friend. Don’t spend your money and your heart on him. Any genuine lover would not request a dime from you but will always want to show you love by giving. Remain blessed.

    2. Help! Please share your thoughts with me. So I met a nice looking guy on instagram. I am in the US and he is in Lagos. We facetime constantly and he seems to be falling in love with me. I just am so distrustful after reading so many romance scamming stories. To prove he is not a scammer (I often accuse him), he has provided me all his identifying information (passport, police records, university degrees..) but still i am hard to trust him. He has never asked me for money. In fact for my birthday he sent me some pretty cool gifts. He is working on getting his US visa approved (not doing it through me but through work). I was able to get a Nigerian Visa (he provided me an invitation letter) and I am thinking of visiting. He would be purchasing my airfare. I have talked to his friends that i see around him and have also stalked his circle of friends on social media. They all seem to checkout fine with the only thing that stand out from them is that they flaunt a lot of opulence. My question, if I do visit is there any other tactic they might try to scam me? what should I watch out for?

    3. Antionette Irvin Ouda says:

      Yes that is happing and he never won’t to do things with me he also will not sleep with me also keep saying that is has to work and he work all the rime and never have any money he also have a problem with letting me see his check subs and a lot more things what dose

    4. says:

      Hi I met this Nigerian guy on social media almost 1.5 years ago . We started talking to each other on 08-7-16. The first time we met each other was on 10-17-17. I went to visit him in Atlanta three times . His actions don’t match his words . I am 24 years old and he’s 34 years old . He introduced me to his brother this month,but that doesn’t mean anything . Ultimately, I think he’s a good guy , but I don’t think he will ever take me serious because of my age . I went to visit three times and he has only offered me gas money once . I love him, but sometimes I feel like walking away from the whole situation. We had sex at the end of last year too. He seem to have a hard time to commit . I really do not know what to do at this point .

  2. How to satisfy my Nigerian boyfriend?
    I am also dating a Nigerian man and would like to satisfy him the Afriacn way, the thing is that I am a white girl and I keep hearing that African men are not satisfied by white girls and my question is why is this so? What should I do to be outstanding? Please I need your urgent help!

  3. Commenting Rules

    Please before you post here and if you really want your question to get answered you must be willing to provide a detailed information about your man and why you think he is cheating on you. This thread is for white girls that feel like their Nigerian boyfriend is cheating or trying fool them.

    This accusation or suspicion must be backed up by a concrete hypothesis if you want to get answers from members of this forum.

    You should answer the following question in your story;

    1 Why do you think he is just trying to fool you? Instances, facts and behaviours that aroused your suspicion.

    2 tell us whether you have employed any tactic at all in a bid to resolve the situation

    3 what were his response?

    Thank you

    1. I dated this Nigerian guy online for almost a year! He got too another parts of the United States and dumped me! He was supposed too come to my state too meet me!

  4. does my nigerian boyfriend really love me?

    About 4 months ago i started chatting to this nigerian guy through a friend and nigerian guy she was chatting to on bbm. We said i love you in under a week. As he didnt have bbm we chtted most days on whatsapp then due to money struggles on his part he could not afford to get whatsapp for his phone so i would then call him every night. Upon calling him it had to be on his when he would ring and hang up or usually he would tell me to ring him around 11pm nightly. A month into our chatting he told me he wasnt the guy that he was claiming to be in the pictures he sent me, this startled me and left me confused n hurt but I forgave this and we moved on. Until later the next month he asked me for some money to attend a family naming ceromony as he didnt have money for new clothes or a gift, I couldnt help him and explained this to him and he accepted my reasons. Lately when i call him he barely speaks on the phone i sometimes have to call his name a number of times to check he hasnt fallen asleep and he would answer me after a few times of calling his name. Other days he is full of chat and giggles, I asked him why is this and he said its because he is shy. Other bbm friends from nigeria that i chat with and have told my story to have told me he is only chatting with me as his friend and my friend are chatting and that he is getting fed up and tired of keeping up pretences and that i deserve better. Me and my friend were planning a trip over to meet the 2 best friends that live together but the guy im chatting with has made it clear that he does not want me to stay with him in his home and has given me multiple reasons like they will have no privacy as his friends just walk in anytime they reason was because he may not be living there by that time and he may be moved back home with his mother. This baffled me as my friend that is chatting to his friend has told her he would rather her stay with him and these 2 guys live in the same house.

  5. Other Commenters says:

    Am I being Fooled
    by: Anonymous

    To the last poster, let me guess… you are 17 or 18 and probably fallen in love the first or second time. The truth is that long distance chats are often wonderful and romantic but in the end nothing comes out of it, especially when you are not independent. To cut the long story short, you are dealing with a player and you may loose money and your heart too. I would however like to know what you guys usually talk about.
    in a marriage to get his stay papers
    by: real and true

    been with him form the begining told me right from the start the situattion have trhed to leave him thru the years but he willl not ihave it last year is coming up for ihim tn get papers should ii see it thru are leave now and save my ♡ from being broken because he want leave her he says there is nno love between them stricley for his papers
    nigerian caller
    by: Anonymous

    I have been talking to this man from Nigeria for a couple of months now he says he lives in louisanna butwhen I checked into the name an address he gave me it was not true he talks of his love for me an wants to be with me he says he is in Nigeria on business now when we talk I hear children sometimes in the background an then I hear like a mess ofpeople talking an computers when I ask him about this he comment is it is noise in Nigeria I confronted him an told him I know he is not who he says he is an I know he has never lived in louisanna he gets upseti think he is a scammer I told him this but I told him to that he had my heart no matter what an whoever he is I still love him I thought I could get him to tell me the truth but no luck yet how do I find out who this man really is
    Just forget him
    by: David

    To the last poster, I would advice that you forget that guy, he is a scammer. sorry.
    Need advice
    by: Natasha

    I met a Nigerian man on a dating site. We met and have dated for about three months. He had told me about his trials of him trying to get citizenship or being able to remain in the US. He had been open and is now telling me every effort has failed. He had been the perfect gentleman. He had met my family and I have met his dear friend. He has asked me to marry him in the very near future so he can remain in the US. We appear to have a great relationship…but I think it is to soon to marry.
    marry him
    by: David

    Ok, too early for marriage? well, it depends on your age and other factors
    Need advice
    by: Natasha

    I’m 45…I mean too soon to marry because we’ve only known each other for 3 months. I have been in a bad marriage before. Only two years since divorce was finalized and I have four boys, young men…20, 17 and 15 year olds.
    by: Anonymous

    I met my nigerian boyfriend 2 years ago..we are pretty much in love but there’s a problem. He’s married with two kids. His family is in nigeria. I didn’t know about this until 6 months into the relationship where I was hurt so bad but still held on after he begged me not to leave. He claimed that his relationship is on the rocks (which I know is true up to a point) and that he really loves me and never wanna leave me. He talks abt future plans with me etc. He’s an amazing guy and I love him with all my heart and sometimes I can’t help worrying abt the future. He said he cannot get a divorce now cuz his wife is gonna keep his kids away forever. Everytime i bring up the topic he says lets not worry abt the future and just be happy. I just need some advice on this please. 🙁
    understanding a Nigerian man
    by: Anonymous

    I am an African American woman dating a Nigerian man. We have been together for 3 1\2 months. Things were good in the beginning,but now I feel a distant. We have talked about marriage and having a child next year but he is not ready to meet mt parents. It seems as if he would rather be alone than be around me at times. It seems more like a sexual relationship. I ask him do he know anything about being a boyfriend and he says he doesn’t. His past relationships has only been based off sex.if that’s the case he doesn’t need to be with me we could have a friends with benefits relationship but he ask to be with me. I dont understand him at all and everytime I say we should be friends we end back together. I like him because he has been someone to help me control my anger to better myself. I dont think he is cheating on me. We work together and we pretty much both work everyday . I just don’t know what to think of this relationship. Should I call it quits or stay and try to find a solution to better our relationship.
    Wake UP!!!!!!.. they are FAKE…….LIARS & USERS….
    by: Anonymous

    My Friends….. & all the naive women that on here talking about how they don’t know if they should leave or being used by these Nigerians so called ‘lovers’ you all need to wake up! and smell the coffee… maybe even read your own posts. These men are SCAMMERS… USERS… HEART-BREAKERS.. . only with you for their own benefits -nothing more. Love shouldn’t be so confusing and you shouldn’t be questioning, guessing or even coming here to ask if they love you or what should you to do to keep him Happy -PLEASE WAKE UP!!!. .. those Nigerian men are so SMART.. . & it’s sad to see how they go about taking advantage of good- hearted Women around the world. I’ve been in three relationships; two was online(internet & BBM/blackberry) and one was in person; he was an international student who got married to his kind after breaking up with me for no apparent reasons. Anyways what I’m saying I’ve experienced all what your saying and all the doubts your having -been there & it’s all the same – feel like I’m reliving my experience by just reading your comments/questions. My advice to you all is to leave while you can, forget about the so called ‘love’ don’t put your heart into it at all -unless if you wanna get hurt. Those men are only there for their advantage, sex, money and most of them do have their own family-married… .with kids. Unless if you just want fun go ahead but never put your heart and money into this ‘love game’. God BLESS.
    Nigerian conman?
    by: Anonymous

    Up until last week I was seeing a Nigerian man for 3 months. I finished the relationship as I wasn’t sure about him but I’ve also been busy in my personal life and couldn’t be bothered with the ‘not knowing’ with everything else on my plate. I’m here because I would like other people’s views on whether I was right to be suspicious of him.
    I met him at work. We went out a number of times but the relationship didn’t progress into anything. Other than rubbing my cheek no advances were made by him whatsoever sexually. I assumed this was because he is a Christian.
    Then, some of the things he said raised a red flag with me. First he told me he had bought a Lexus (he was otherwise without a car) however, a few days later he told me he had to return the car but he was vague on why. I think it was said to impress me.
    He also told me he was unhappy in his flat and wanted to move somewhere bigger – get his own house. It wasn’t until a week before he was to move out of his flat that he actually sprung on me he had handed in his notice but hadn’t found anywhere to live. He told me he had tried with various agencies but ‘no one wanted him’. I found this strange as he is a professional working for a well renowned company. He started to drop hints about moving in with me but I wouldn’t allow that since I didn’t know him and my house is currently under renovation and practically inhabitable at the moment. As we live 45 miles apart, he has never been to my house so he wasn’t aware of the state it’s currently in. After he came to understand that it seemed like he didn’t have a problem with finding new accommodation except he never moved into his own house. Instead he went into a house share. He also mentioned a few times about ‘my millions’ (I’m a high earning professional) and said things like he wanted a Mercedes like mine.
    Soon after I started dating him I came to realise he wasn’t what I thought he was. He appears quite irresponsible and a bit immature but he did but me expensive perfume and always insisted on paying for dinner. Was this an investment?
    When I ended the relationship I saw a slightly different side to him. He had always appeared to be quiet, courteous, Christian-like etc but when I told him I didn’t quite understand our relationship and didn’t want anything else but just friendship he laughed and made out he had no interest in me that way anyhow and that he was going to call me later just to make that straight. I told him that was not necessary since we had just both agreed that it was a plutonic relationship. He looked as if his ego had been dented. So this made me wonder, is he a conman? Something just didn’t add up. He spoke of children, asked a lot about my background and what I wanted in life. It made me think that he was viewing me as a future wife. But he never told me much about himself and I have never been to his house. I know he is not married.
    I started to look for info on him and found he has a business that is active but I don’t believe he’s actually trading anything. I also found two different dates of birth for him. What do you think is going on?
    I just don’t understand why a Nigerian guy doesn’t want sex (he says he respects me too much for that) but tried to move in with me, wines and dines me and buys me designer perfume?

  6. Other Commenters says:

    by: David
    Wow!!! Conman? well I don’t really know what to say but seriously, I need to get something straight. Most black people that claimed to be from Nigeria are actually not Nigerian. Severally I have decided to spy of some of the guys reported on this thread and several other threads like this and guess what? they were from Africa alright! but not Nigeria. For some reason, conmen like to say they are from Nigeria. With regard to your story, pls forget the guy and move forward! There are millions of decent Nigerian men, Men are all the same everywhere, there attitude is often only hampered by their environment and circumstances surrounding it.

    If you find irregularities in any man, it doesn’t matter his origin, follow you heart and move on.

    THEIR truth is not necessarily YOUR truth
    by: ThankULagos
    I have been dating my Nigerian boyfriend for almost 2 months now. I have read so many forums about ‘Nigerian conmen’ and it almost, literally made me lose something that may possibly be the best thing I have ever had. I am a black American, and although I hear that the cultural differences may cause a rift, he is completely fine with sharing cultures. Even this coming up weekend, we’ve planned to have an African dinner and the next morning, we’ll have an American breakfast. He definitely loves to be dominant, but he is just as well submissive. We share our views, morals and values. The forums I was reading, painted such an ugly picture of him and as many negative ‘stereotypes’ I hear of black women, I had to sit and really think about what I was doing and how unfair I was being. Just like the ‘Nigerian conmen’ stories, he could very well judge me the same as being a black American for our stories. Ladies, pay attention to your red flags, your intuition. It is given to us for a reason. My man is from South, South Nigeria and is the upmost gentleman, and is very proud of me. He loves to introduce me to his friends, he talks about me to his family and even invites me to visit him at his job. I won’t even mention his passionate kisses, how he looks into my eyes and the billions of times a day that he calls me beautiful. He says he is the luckiest man on earth to have come here and met me but little does he know, I feel lucky. I have had terrible experiences with my own kind here. Sure, you’re probably thinking, idiot.. it has only been 2 months! But like I said, I can get an American native here that would do me just as bad, if so… so what the hell?! Live a little! With that being said, just don’t be foolish. He never asks for anything, as a matter of fact, he’s always offering and whenever he says he’s going to do something- it is done. I expressed once to him how paranoid I am about his honesty, due to the forums I read because truthfully, his Visa expires soon. I could have sworn I heard his heart shatter, and he said he didn’t want to pressure me or make me think he is in this just for citizenship, so I should take a break away from him. That was the longest 3 days of my life! He never shoves his soon expired Visa or citizenship down my throat, he rather not even discuss it. I am who bring it up because I’d hate to fall in love with someone one minute and lose them the next. Because of my worries, he was willing to lose me just so my mind and heart is content. That break killed me but showed me a lot about him. It showed how unselfish he is, and NON conning, as I was influenced to assume, that he truly is. I couldn’t hear his sexy voice, his loving and kind words, and had no one to talk to who actually listened and genuinely cared about my day. He came to America almost 2 years ago, he had a job PRIOR to meeting me (most black men BORN here rather live off their woman/mom and can’t even spell, yet along say ‘job’), he has a place with his brother (which means he is paying bills..signs of responsibility) and is currently looking for a cash car. My point is, so what if he’s a citizen or not?! As long as he is showing initiative of his own life and is truly making effort, I say love that man til he proves otherwise. My man has even expressed staying here after the visa expires, and if that fails, I go back to Lagos with him. Not once has he stressed marrying him so we can be together forever or whatever other Romeo & Juliette lines I have read that was fed to some of these ladies, you get my drift? Stop listening to other women’s stories and experiences, and attend to your own experience. If a little voice in your head says BEWARE! Then do exactly that. But make sure it is based on conclusions gathered from what you are seeing and feeling, not some woman whom you never met and is upset because she continues to make bad decisions in men. No two men are the same, as no two women are and if they are, it is because you continue to choose that type…the wrong type. We are all raised differently and what one man eats, doesn’t make the next man shit. Think about it.

    Good luck, open your mind…and if they are worthy, open your heart! ❤

    Is my Facebook boyfriend a scammer???
    by: Brim
    Ok. So I met this guy on Facebook and we hit it off right away. I typically never give guys a chance, especially on Facebook, but something about him was different. We said the “I love you’s” really fast. We’ve been dating for about a month now and he has asked me for money to help him with his rent. It made me instantly question everything. I had been used before by guys and he knew this! So I was confused when he asked me this. I instantly expressed this concern with him and he said he was not after my money. He just needed help because he has no one in his corner. I suggested several people he could stay with like family members, friends but he told me they had no room for him. I told him I didn’t even have enough money to concert half of his rent. But he said it was OK, just send what I have and it will help to show his landlord. I was really upset, because I felt like he was trying to find any way to get some kind of money from me. He apologized for asking me, and said he will figure it out. To be fair he only asked after I kept pressuring him, because he wasn’t acting like himself and I knew something was on his mind. I really love this guy and be says he loves me and I trust that. However as soon as I see that he asked for money it made me question everything. Does he truly love me or does he want money. I constantly told him that I don’t have much. So I don’t know why be would want me for that. I’m just confused. He’s talking marriage, and I want to marry him, but how do I know it’s real. I don’t want to stereotype him just because he’s from Nigeria and asking for money. If it were a boyfriend in the U.S. where I’m from I wouldn’t have add many reservations. Please help!!!

    Truth or fake “love” ???
    by: Anonymous
    I have read many thinks about Nigerian men, i have hear many too… But i met one guy from Nigeria in my country. He is alone here and he has applied for asylum here. We are in relationship about 5 months now. We are not in a hurry to continue our relationship neither then, nor now. small small keep going… We do not live in same house, and he never asked anything from me till now. The only, to be truthful and faithful with him, to understand him and to respect him. So, we discuss about many thinks, we do many things together, he is speaking me about his culture, about Nigeria, about his life, and i see, that he really show me interest to learn about me. One day asked me to go together to his church, and i did. He looked very happy and ask to do this every Sunday. He says that his plans about our relationship is to get married when he will be ready to to that by economical view, because (he says) in his culture man is the head of the house and have to take care of his wive, to be good together. He wants to have children and one day to go together at Nigeria, to meet his parents.I see that he always speaking to me ant plan together… except that, he sayd me that i should try to be near to his people (from Nigeria) and when i show him interest about his mother language, he sayd me that he will help me to learn it! He was really very happy to hear me speaking his mother language (small small) hehe – but, how to understand that this guy really wants me because of love???

    Inlove but confused
    by: Anonymous
    I met this Nigerian guy on fb, Im in SA and he is in Nigeria. we chatted till were used to each other. He asked me to marry him and I agreed. He said he will be coming to SA in February, but now hes telling me that hes short of money for the ticket I must help him out, Im so confused because he said he is a doctor in Nigeria. I love him very much but now Im a bit confused why being a doctor is asking money to fly to SA, Pls advise me.

    How to understand if he is truthful with me?
    by: Anonymous
    I am dating a Nigerian guy 2 months now. We make some thinks together, like to speak about many subjects, go for a walk, stay together at home… He says that he loves me, and want to create a family with me. Specially he wants to have 3 children and be forever together. He looks to speak seriously about these, the only, that he asked me time to be ready. That means that he try to find a job, make his home, his papers, help his family at Nigeria. After these, he said that he will be free to continue our relationship. ok. everything good till now… Se said that man is the head of the house, and has to take care about wife, children, everything. Many times asking me if i am playing a game with him, or if i mean my words to him, if i kidding him. Ok. But some times he is asking me somethings, and i feel uncomfortable, because my economical condition is not so good…And getting in trouble… So how could i understand if he really means these that telling me… how to understand after all i have read and listen about Nigerian man, if is he truthful with me???

    Is he being truthful? I love him!
    by: Anonymous
    Hi. I am very much in love with a Nigerian man. He currently lives in Accra, Ghana. We are both 27. I’m an concerned if he is being truthful, does he really love me? It feels real.. Is he who he says he is??. We Skype and chat on WhatsApp, for the past 8 months now. What arrived me to questions are his inconsistencies. He has been in a financial runt since we began talking. He planned to be here in January, May also.. His visa was declined for overstaying her says. I don’t think he’s ever been here honestly. We met on facebook. I saw a picture of his daughter with a man. The comments basically insinuated that the man was the father of my bf’s daughter. Shocked I asked him and he blocked me from facebook and WhatsApp and eventually adds me back. He has never answered the question of he lied about daughter. He claims to love me and want to get married and that he’s celibate waiting for a wife. He’s handsome and very kind. I have sent him money to help done of his financial problems. It concerns me because I’m not sure if he lied to get the money or does he really love me and not wanting citizenship or doesn’t if that nature. Please help! Don’t want to waste my time. I do love him. There’s more, so much more. Too much include all at once. Can I have an opinion please? Thank you!!

    Nigerian men good pretenders
    by: Anonymous
    I dated this nigerian guy for a the beginning I’ve never been loved like this,he lost his Job not a good job anyway,I took care of him like his my child,my son moved out,His gambling,a lot.on our 1 year unnivesary my son caame back home,he started changing,we had misunderstanding he burst and swear at me in front of my kids,calling me old fool,witch,destiny killer,he should have dated younger girls.I’m 42 his 39.I just pack his things and ask him to leave my house.Ladies nigerian and cameroonian guys thell do anything for their own as fast as you can.
    My nigeria experience
    by: Pam
    My Nigerian guy doesn’t even have a job..he tried to scam me at first, I caught him. So now he says truth to me….I hope..☺so he’s in hospital for injury to his leg I gave him some cash to get in.I didn’t trust him..I only gave him cash to get him in to needs more money
    .I refuse to send more..I’m not stupid..if he truly loves me he will work it out..he says he has noone else..well I can’t help that.. he wants to marry me and is way younger than me…but I will not support him..things get real know all the romanticall stuff involved..idk I can walk away..but I might be having to much fun!.don’t want anyone to get hurt though..hope someone responds to this…Juliette ☺

    Dating a Nigerian men
    by: Anonymous
    There’s so handsome and there accents are sexy but feel there full of shit to be honest. I’ve been dating one for almost two months and he seems like he’s to busy or there’s Someone esle. I went to the movies with him and he was texting a few other women I’m not upset completely because nothing is official and we’re taking it slow but it’s really rude and inconsiderate kinda disrespectful and he tried to hide the phone from me like I was stupid. I’m learning more about Nigerian men and all I heard is bad things like they put there family and mother before there marriage, there controlling, there abusive and they cheat on there wife’s or can have affairs or marry a few women. I would like to not think what I heard was true but it hard not to listen. For one the guy I’m seeing said he cheated several times and the fact that there so sex hungry or they play so many games. Personally I hevent heard from him or talk to him the day he dropped me off from the movies we were suppose to go out the next day or he said he would call me which of course nothing happened so I decided to move on I’m happy it’s not more serious and I haven’t grown feelings for him but you think I did right by cutting him off or give him another chance

    Nigerian man – No! No!
    by: Anonymous
    I met this Nigerian guy in Malaysia. Im a Singaporean. We dated for about 10 mths. Most of the time I will be the one travelling to Malaysia as I dont need Visa. Everything went well. Never asked for help except once when he got stuck to pay his house rental. One day he finally dropped the bomb! Asked me for US30K! To fence up his land in Lagos or else his land would get confiscated by others who can offer more for the land!? I dont have the money but he doesnt believe me. Yelled at me over the phone n he broke up with me immediately. Told me not to call him anymore. He also blocked me on his Whatsapp. I did some research. Sent email to a property/land construction company in Lagos. Fencing 2 plots of land in Lagos the cost is just US1K. I was heartbroken initially but moved on since then. Never a Nigerian man ever again.

    Is he for real?
    by: CanadaGal
    Been talking to a Nigerian man I met online for over a year now. I am from Canada. He calls me multiple times a day both on video and audio calls. He messages me all throughout his day. We laugh and share ideas and get along very well. we are trying to get him a visitor visa so we can meet in my hometown. He has sent me the data page of his passport and I have referenced it and it clears that he is who he says he is. His address checks out on google maps as being exactly where he says he is from. I have investigated where he works and it checks out. He has introduced me to his parents over video call and his siblings and many many friends. He has a picture that he made out of mine and his photo put together as his profile picture for all social media he is on. He has given me his passwords for email and social media. He has sent me money through MoneyGram for my birthday. I have his account details at his bank so I could call and see if the account existed and that his name was the same. I have scanned every dating website imaginable and can’t find him. I have reverse image searched every picture of himself that he sends to me and all that comes up are the social media I am already aware he is on. I have his real phone number as well as his parents contact details. I feel like I have done all the research I can and it all comes back that he is being honest with me about everything. Now my question being is this for real?

    Is he cheating
    by: Anonymous
    I started dating this Nigerian guy about 2months ago.we met on a we spoke he began to tell me that has interested and wanted to exchange numbers.after 2days he said he was in love and asked if I would consider marrying him…….THIS IS WHERE MY GUY FEELINGS KICKED IN….I myself told him I rather wait until I’m 29ish 30. (I’M 27 now)He accepted that offer,After some weeks of talking more he’s telling me I have trust issues.the reason being is because I asked about him as an African man is it true about you guys wanting to marry for a greencard?.We’re going back and forth still trying to trust each other(remind you to he made me his girlfriend 4days after and I was stupid to accept)so we’re dating.So his answer was that he only want to find true love .he only want to marry once.I ask
    Led how could you fall in love so fast and not knowing the person he told he well it about… with is conversation we’re speaking about our past relationships.and has telling me about a oler woman he dated and her son.long story short I ended up meeting this women through a friend which happens to his sister.(so my friend and bf ex girl are met and she a rough girl me I’m more on the gentle she’s messaging him and he’s messaging her but he’s not messaged messaging me.then his ex starts showing me messages of him saying he’s not in a relationship and he’s calling her babe he loves after 20mind of speaking with her I left and received a message from him saying he’s breaking up with me because I spoke b d about him which I didn’t,that I lied on things he said and he never disrepected her.he also told her while I was their that he has a better chance with me then …..later that said he was hurt and that we can make things first that situation meeting his ex I thought it was a negative sign telling me to leave him but then I started thinking if he’s such a bad guy why does she still want him back and message him……the next day we tried to rekindle what happened the day before.Its jus solo much I just can type

    Nigerian man Wants to marry me
    by: Anonymous
    I also met a Nigerian man he seems genuine but I’m not sure if he’s completely honest. He is on 2nd marriage the wife is expecting 2nd child now he states they haven’t been getting along for the longest she has no respect for him and shows no love or interest the 2nd child was conceived through make up sex an attempt to save the marriage. His plan is to divorce after the birth of the child he states according to him and his mother she was well aware of pending divorce and she is ok with it. He wants to marry me and states he loves me was upfront about needing permanent residency but states that he wants us to be together because he loves me. He constantly talks about the stigma of having 2 failed marriages and wants when we get married he wants it to work but I still have my doubts. I’ve known him now only 1 month but he has been generous, calm a very good personality but I still have my doubts and he also talks about God a lot. What is your take on him. I don’t want to get myself into something I will reget later. I do care about him a lot.

    If i am being fooled by nigerian man
    by: Anonymous
    I meet him online and we started to talk we started talking on the phone we also talk video calls but i do not know if he is playing me for what he can get i asked about his family he told he how many there are and where he was in the line he will tell me when he goes out with friends mozt of the time he will message me while he is out he sends pics of him out and he sent a video while he was out but he is always saying i complete him and ge loves me he sent me pics from work and when i asked for his address he was hesitant at first but he did give it cause he said he loved me and he had too i have heard so many different things i am doubting this i use whatsapp to talk to him and i have his pic as my profile pic and i post on his fb wall but i make it just so we can see it he said i could post anything we have talked bout me going there and it will be in few months he has asked me to help him get something but i am worried i love him and i dont want to be played. My friend told me my doubts are natural anx i talked to him about it and he was like if you are gonna listen to your friends about us. I am so

    So conflicted
    by: Mel
    I started talking to a nigerian man online we have been getting along well we said i love you quickly and we have been talking all dads and until he falls asleep we video chat and call ea other i have been told so many things about nigerian men that I am doubtful of things now I plan on visiting in few months he seems genuine but there are suitors for him there and I am worried that he will chose someone closer he says there is not enough room in his heart for another but there are times he does not answer for awhile and he goes with his friends and sometimes he is quiet about those certain outings others he is very informative am I letting tLk get to me

    To Watchman
    by: Anonymous
    I am answering AMY I BEING FOOLED BY MY NIGERIAN BOYFRIEND I am not in my teens I had a relationship before this i went bad I met my nigerian borfriend online we speak everyday and send pics and video call all though the week and work day I have heard so many different things about nigerian men and what they can & can’t do but I have asked him about all these he says he does what he thinks not what other ppl think there are nigerian girls also showing interest I get worried cause he is secretive when i ask he does answer but I have suspicious thoughts due to me having to travel there and he never talks bout specifics it’s all about he needs me or wants me there am I being overly doubtful so much to addh

    A man in Sapele Nigeria saddly letting go
    by: Anonymous
    Nigerian man met me online. Confessed he loved me quickly. After his persistence I eventually said it back plus we were both believers so it wasn’t hard to say. Long story short I was skeptical ask questions and the only time I felt uses was when he ask me to open up a account wih $500 and how it would help me have multiple streams of income. Other than that he sent pictures videos and messages on Whatsapp often. Until that shortened up. When I ask why he said I ruined his day. I was shocked. Being trying to get to know one another for a few months.Sweetest man I have ever met. But he say his money issues keeps us from talking as much. And for me to be understanding. My gut tells me Ive been dumped to the back burner. He mentioned his wife and that the marriage is over. I found that out by accident thru facebook. I really liked this guy but when he dropped talking to me from a hundred times a day to almost never I became weary. Why did he seek me out only to drop me?

  7. OKAY , so . I know this is gonna sound crazy but I need answers, I am 20 years old I work at this club in Atl as a dancer . I met this African man there . I sat beside him to fix my heels and we talked for a minute and he asked for a dance. Afterwards he gave me 100 dollars for one dance . I thought it was generous so I gave him my number in the hopes that he would come back to the club to see me. He is 30 years old . He would constantly text me and ask me to come see him and all this sweet stuff and I wouldn’t . One day I was going to Walmart and when I walked in the door I saw him walk by with one of his friends. I didn’t say nothing in hopes that he didn’t recognize me. I then bumped into him again in Walmart and waited until he left to text and ask him if he was there . He tried to see me again and I told him no . That night he showed up at the club and kept asking me to come over and dance for him. So I did. He was so nice he actually convinced me to hangout with him. I had a friend come along .. he didn’t like the friend and claimed she was taking advantage of me. She ended up doing something dumb and leaving me there and taking my phone by accident long story short he convinced me to stay everysince . At first he would text me 24/7 always going out his way to be sweet. Then his roommates gf and I started talking and I told her I had a suspicion that he had a wife and she said I was smart and that she too had thought her bf did and they were about to go back to Africa . He didn’t tell me he was leaving yet so I asked him and he confirmed that he would be soon. She got jealous because I was staying there and tried to tell her bf that I said all these things that she had originally said and right after that he bought me an apartment and put it in my name and then left. At first it was fine and then he started ignoring me and not talking to me for hours he doesn’t call me 9/10 unless he needs something but he always says he swears to god that he loves me and that there’s no other woman. One time in his phone before he left a message came up and said “when’s your white wedding” I thought because I am white they were talking about me but now I’m not sure . He’s always talking about is starting a family and getting married but at this point I feel like its brainwash but I don’t know why . And then sometimes I think otherwise . This morning he called me to make sure I got up and then called on his video and I seen a band on his left hand that I had never seen before but I decided to act like I didn’t see it . When he does call he only calls in the car . Or he would call me in the bathroom at first . He hasn’t introduced me to his mom or dad just some of his cousins and brother. He’s got his own money, and his life together I don’t know what he could get from being with me ? He was supposed to be home already but hasn’t made it home yet . He keeps making excuses . Please contact me by email or something I’m not sure if I even know how to get back but I would like to speak with you privately for more details.

  8. Joyce Rodgers says:

    Hello my Nigerian friend pull a good one on me.He pretended to be of the same faith Iam one of Jehovah witness. He pretend to be so spiritual in tune. We chatted online for about 10 months.He promised if he came too America he wanted too meet me. When he did he stopped in another state. He got upset without because I wouldn’t jump at his beckon call. I was furnishing him iTunes cards100.00 mostly fifty dollars ones.Last week he dumped me after he got that last itune card from me. He blocked all our communication. It,s just like he was a dream and now he is gone.Now I’m left heart broken.

    1. Dorothy Crawford says:

      Wow so sorry my sister of jehovah witness me too was like you 9 months, he claim to love, the same as i but when i didnt send hum miney for visa to come to america he wanted to be friends on facebook i love him so much he was a igbo we have to be careful satan is every where i wasnt going to keep feeling like i wasnt the only one even though he brought me dresses over here in usa but i didmt feel jehovah presence in him he always wanted to fuss about my money and he loved womens oh my

  9. He uses his SA MTN number but surprising. When I call him, the ringing tone is an ordinary one as he is in Mzantsi when I expected it to give n international sounds. I refuse to believe that I am fooled here but subject to ur advices.

  10. M dating a Nigerian man from Owerri and very much in love with him. Our first date was at de Mall. Later hotel. He said he stays with his cousin who moved in after their house got burnt. I am a bit nervous he might be telling me lies. Late lastvyesr He asked me to accompany him to his Social Club closing party and I at. He later told me it was cancelled. He visited his family in Nigeria for Xmast holidays. He asked me to assit him with a travelling allowance bcos his friend run away with his money which was meant for his travelling allowance (thats what he said to me) I promised to deposit to him de small money that I have, which I did. Whilst home, he takes time to respond o my chats or answer my calls bcos He claim Electricity fault and trying to save battery. He was supossed to return back late January but cudnt bcos he claimed to have missed a connecting flight from Lagos back to SAdue to a delay of his departure flight from Owerri (welm he brot that to my attention whilst at Oweei Airport if that’s true. He then promised to return sooner to be with me. Later he started to attend to my chats and calms. A week ago he has asked me to assit him to upgrade his ticket to travel back to SA. He check on me every morning and sumx during the day. A week ago we were on a romantoc chat and said he was with his Mother and wanna spent quality time with her since he is due to return back to Mzantsi. Suddenly he dropd the chat and asked me to chat further at night but instead he sent me a gdnyt msg. I asked him why did he suddenly divorced our chats and he said his Mom asked him to massage her willing feet. I need help since I sense that this man is playing me games and playing with my. Ive asked him to send his names as they appears on his Passport n Passpiry number for me to upgrafe his ticket myself. He had since nit done so but keeps chatying to me. Does he luv me or what? I called his MTN number, but it gives out a common sound unlike a different sound of calling international. Pls help me I don’t know what to do.

    1. Hello Ditty, it’s quite obvious from your comment that you were in love. You so much wanted the relationship to work which brought about your commitment. Face value judging from your story, the signs are very strong that this person who claims to love you is not living up to expectations. You have spent your cash on him more so your heart. I want to advise you tread carefully. Don’t waste your resources again on him. it’s shameful act on his part begging you for money, no sense of masculine dignity and no act of true love from him toward you. I want to advise you to pray to God He answers prayers(if you believe in God ). God could bring a true lover your way and you will experience heaven on earth in your relationship. Remain blessed.

  11. Hi, I have been talking to a Nigerian guy for about 2 months now. At first he had set up an Instagram account & pretended to be an Italian looking man named Pedro. After I questioned every possible factor he came forth as Bright Ufoma Micheal from Benin Nigeria. He said he was 28 & I am 43. I questioned his age also & he admitted he is really 24. He chats online to me through Whatsapp text, video & calls. He had told me he loves me & wants to marry me & move to Australia where I live. I have questioned him many times on various things but he always seems to have a confirmative response. I have met his friends & seen his Facebook profile etc. he wants to know where I am, who am I with & doesn’t like it if I’m around other males. I am planning to meet him in November as I am going to see friends in South Africa & thought it would be good to meet him in person to see if this is real. I have told him I have no money only myself to give. He says he is a skater & there is a big competition in September in Egypt. He can’t afford new in line speed skates & asked if I could help. I got really angry when he first asked & almost cut him off. He convinced me otherwise. He asked again a few weeks later. I said he needed to send me s picture of the skates & the size & I might be able to get them & send to him. He gave me his address. I said I will never put money in the bank for him. I have had a health scare & lots of bills. I told him I can’t afford the $300 for skates & I won’t be made to feel bad if I can’t help. All of his stories check out, he treats me beautifully. I guess I’m worried that if I do meet him what could happen to me. Is it safe there? I’ll see if he still wants to continue with me if I won’t give him money. I have told him all I can offer is me. He tells me he is mature for his age & age is just a number. He likes white women & does not mind that I am a little chubby. He tells me I’m beautiful all the time. I guess I have many doubts but not sure if I stop this am I throwing away something true, or is he just a really clever scammer? If he is a scammer he won’t get anything out of me, I will just get s broken heart. What do you think

    1. Not really sure, perhaps he just want to be your friend, if you want to support his skating career just go ahead and do it if you can! If he is Nigerian and 24, he won’t get married to a 43 year old lady. if you want to come see him in Nigeria, you would probably be safe. Just stay in open places or decent hotels.

      1. That’s not a good advice, there are more good men than bad men. If you are programmed by default to think like that you won’t know when you drive good men away, you won’t know.

      2. Just becareful am going to meet my love in September for the first time,and am 5 years older than him.. But I was told not a lot of Nigerian young men wants to marry a older lady

    2. Just be careful, because one from Lagos Nigeria says he loves me, and says his wife cheated on him with his best friend. He is also a movie actor. I saw some of the movies he’s played in. He says he wants to invite me to come to his country and pay for me to get there. I’m willing to take the chance, but I’m going to be very careful

      1. Does he go by the name of Levine Shaffer? That is the same story my fiance gave me. He said his wife cheated on him while he was a mission in Afghanistan. He is also in Lagos Nigeria. He also told me that he has a daughter named Kennedy.Did he give you this number to call him? (209-265-8058) please feel free to call me at 1-667-228-7141

    3. Don’t fall for this. Especially if you are a whitr woman May sound hard but your story is a replica of others. And they love older women. Go with your gut not your heart. #heslookingfor citizenship

    4. Hi Kylie,

      I think we have met the same guy. It seems as if maybe things didnt work out for you guys so he is back at using the same profile to Catfish women on IG. Let’s compare notes with one another if you like. The same profile is still on IG as MIchaelWillson instead of Pedro but same pictures. I did some research and found this is a Nigeria scammer, which is a young man about 24-26 in age scamming on older women. Be careful. I can guarantee this is the same person.

      1. Good afternoon the same thing has happened to me involving the same guy with the same name!! Oh my gosh I’m so pisssed but glad I met you!! I deleted the app and have ceased all communication with him

  12. I am advising all you foreign ladies, genuine Nigeria guy won’t request a dime from you.
    We are trained to have sense of pride that will rather make us give to ladies than asking for their help. Anyone asking anything from you is a fraudster.
    They will rather die wretch than begging for monetary help from ladies just like I said. When you find good Nigeria guy who is poor and not asking for help go for it.
    A Nigeria guy speaking

    1. I really have a question not so much of a comment. I met this Nigerian guy through a friend in 2011 and he left the state I was living in because of living situation or other things. When he left, I found out he got married a few months after he left and the marriage was solely for his papers. In 2016 he contacted me and apologize for all he had done and put me through. By this time I was very skeptical of Nigerian men. I moved to the state he is currently in and we got married. The first year was really rough. He would stay up all types of night and would be taking his phone in the bathroom texting. Once I start complaining about it he got very angry and then all of a sudden he said that his cousin was the one he was talking to on the phone. I asked him along time ago if he had family here and he said no. Now he has a female cousin here and she needs relationship advice. I said how are you going to give relationship advice and you can not even get your marriage right. I even spoke to her. Later I found out she was not a cousin and she was more than that. He got angry again and threw his phone away and did not use his computer because I was on him a lot about his suspicious activities. He made me feel as though I was the problem and that I nagged and accused him too much for all these things. In reality everything I nagged about was true. I continue to be with him to see if I was the issue. The things he complained about I have changed them. I thought the things that I had felt and accused him of was over. He has a phone that I pay for that he uses. Last month I noticed that there were over 800 text messages sent in one pay cycle and they were not all to me and he doesn’t text anyone else other than for meeting, rarely for business. That made me start thinking and I said no we are doing so well he wouldn’t, but today while I was at work and he is at work I put a limit on the text messages. It was at 713 when I set the limit for him to make only 10 more text messages which would total 723. I knew he was not on his lunch yet so he wouldn’t text. When he was released for lunch he text me 6 times and was unable to text me after. I called him and he said there was an error saying his text was blocked. I told him what I did. He refused that he was texting someone else. He said I can look at the log. I know there are apps you can use or websites to text and would not show up on my log. What made me do this was his football team Liverpool has a crucial match today which starts at 2:45p but he was checking his text messages at 10 am. He swears he loves me and that he will never leave but am I being used for papers and for a comfortable lot better living situation until he can move on and start his own business and whatever else once he get papers????

      1. Maybe you are just being up in his business, everybody loves a little space or maybe he is actually cheating. Either way, I would suggest you take it easy. I thought you said he married someone for papers? he didn’t have the papers yet? Remember, it doesn’t matter that you pay his bills, A man want be treated with respect. If you both go to church, take him to see your pastor, you will get the truth faster, Nigerian men are very religious.

        1. Mystery Lady says:

          Girl don’t sweat the small shit . That’s his phone u have no rights 2 his phone and yes I’m married 2 a Nigerian prince thats what he is in my eyes . B real with urself u what u were getting urself into. Stop being an investigator. And have confidence in urself if u r loving him right and being submissive as his wife and trusting GOD then what r u worrying about . Again if u r loving him the right way he may lol at other women but not touch . Me and my husband do strip clubs 2gether bcuz that how he wants it but when his boy gets in town they will hang without me and i b damn I sit back wondering what he is doing . Mrs. Just know ur place and position and stay m ur lane. Pray about it . U r 2 bless. 2 b stressed .

          1. It’s not small shit when you move thousands of miles to be with someone you love. When you have conversations before you move on the things that you both expect. Then when you get together, your husband getting up in the middle of the nights going in the bathroom to text another woman, which later on you find out. When doing all you suppose to do and he is being sneaky and not truthful. So he breaks the trust. Then he’ll yeah I’m going to be an investigator sometimes. I have full and complete confidence in myself cause I know what I am capable of and I gave it to him until those text messages whas talking about did the other woman enjoy the sex, and when you speaking to that same woman in my face saying it’s your cousin who needs relationship advice in your native language. Even after he told me he doesn’t have family in the same town to invite to our wedding but now you have a cousin in the same town that you give relationship advice too. I’ve never been anybody’s fool and never will. I trust God completely but I am human and when everything is showing you that this is not healthy and I eyed to cut my loses and move on, true love a person has for the other it’s hard to do. I give it day by day hoping for change but nothing huh, yeah I’ll be back in my own lane in a hot minute because I will have done all that I can to be submissive, supportive, helpful, a friend that also goes to the strip club with her husband because he likes it too, and a listener.

        2. Thanks for your reply. To answer your question, no he never received his papers because he left the woman when they needed a second interview and to supply new documents. He pays majority of the bills. I buy all things for the home and things that we both like as in electronics etc. I guess the problem is we don’t work together if there is something that he wants to do and it cost money he just does it for himself and forget the bill he makes it up later. When it comes to me like my birthday or date night or whatever and I tell him months ahead I never get anything but a card. If I want something I have to argue with him then he will try to get it.
          I have found all types of inappropriate text messages to him and from him to another woman, to me I cannot trust him. I have told him that I would like for us to work on trust. I have even told him what I want and still almost 2 years later he doesn’t care he does the same things until he wants something then he is being nice.
          Recently we were in the grocery store and had a quaral and he told my, “I think I am sitting on top of the world,” I thought to myself why would he say that and we are suppose to be one? If I am thinking that way then he is next to me so,why do he has the jealousy toward me? That is how I felt and really it confirmed to me that I am being used.

      2. First off your stupid sorry to say, because I would never go with him after he, left and go married for papers, your first mistake, and then cousin who ain’t cousin, girl your gullible, and a damm idiot, Straighten your crown Queen, anddont act desperate. He would have to go sleep with his cousin

        1. Nakisha, first of all i’m very far from stupid. When he left he had no other choice because he was living with a family and was unable to find a job and things were getting too uncomfortable for him. I am not the person to stop any foreigner man from trying to get established in our country to have a better life. He left and forsome months we communicated then it stopped. It was only 8 years later that I found out that he had gotten married. He had been looking for me trying to contact me.
          His only regret knowing what he knows now is that he did not bring me along when he left. This road has not been an easy one as you can read above.
          As far as the cousin not being the cousin, yes I was betrayed and is and very hurt by it. I struggle with that betrayal daily. Mind you it all did not unfold until after we were married not to say that that makes it okay because it doesn’t. I truly believe in marriage.
          I cannot just sit here and say all bad things about him he works very hard to keep a roof over our heads, bills paid, and to do that he has to work with people who treats him less than a man like a slave and he does it 6 days a week for a income that only provides for our housing and other bills. He makes me coffee every morning and evening. He is concerned with my health. I constantly accuses him because of what he has done. He helps in the home, he keeps my car clean and which by the way he got for me and that’s the 2nd car. He doesn’t provide the luxury things that I may want but he tries hard to build a better life to be able to afford those things for me.
          So when you say I am gullible, I say I am not a person who gives up on love, on the future and on someone who is capable of being my prince. An idiot, I think NOT, I am well aware i’m Nobody’s fool. My sign is Cancer. My crown is very straight my sister. When 2 people from 2 different cultures come together there is learning on both sides that needs to be done. I know he betrayed me, trust me to this day he regrets it because to this day he tries to make sure that everything he do he is not looking like a suspect to me of doing wrong. Which makes me feel bad because all calls are placed in front of me, I know all numbers and who they belong to, internet use is in front of me, he don’t have a cell phone anymore. It makes me feel bad because that is not who I am but this is what it is to go through until the trust is rebuilt.
          Desperate me, oh no never. I just choose to put in time and work with him, my choice.

      3. oh wow I sound like you I have been talking to a young nigerian and so far he has asked me for a samsung cellphone and now he says his daughter is in the hospital though he wont send me a picture of her in the ICU…he is married but separated he says..his parents forced her on him lol i had to laugh…he begged me for a video chat and i finally gave in he always says he loves me and i am beautiful and i dont believe it he will get no money from me i think he is handsome sexy but reallly too too young for me but he has awakened a fire in my soul and i find myself thinking of him all the time….we have cyber sex through messenger and its nice.first time for me ..but this requests for money is getting old…and i am about to let him go even though i dont want to….cause i am lonely and his words are sweet…sad that men prey on vulnerable women

    2. Thank you so much for the info.. would love to marry a Nigerian but seems all Nigerian want women from London British or some foreign country I’m a California girl but would love to become a Nigerian wife.. God bless

    3. Kirsten Cochrane says:

      I’ve been dating a Nigerian man for 2 years online. He never initially asked for money, just told me how poor he was. So i offered to help. He said he wouldn’t refuse and was grateful… but since has asked for lots. I tried not to think much of it until he was ok with me working a 3rd job at age 50 to help with his bp medicine. Now I’m questioning his age because he’s involved in the Npower program and the age he said he was is too old for the program… I’ve felt Leary and had lots of “red flags” since he forgot my birthday back in November… Am I being scammed???

    4. I am married to a nigerian man. We married at ikoyi registry in 2017. He never asked for one dime before we was married but every since i returned back to the US after marrying him. He ask me for money all the time. He saids he loves me but I’m not so sure now! I’m just really fed up and don’t know what to do at this point.

    5. I really need advice because I have been having some many doubts about my Nigerian friend. Every night I’m searching the internet in topics about Nigerian men. I just to know if he is truly genuine because I really like him however I asked god to reveal everything I need to know about him. I’m in the U.S he is in Nigeria

      1. I will be asking God to reveal to me about the Nigerian guy that likes me so I’m in agreement with that God will never fail you

    6. Hi I’m curious I have been in a relationship with a Nigerian man that lives in South Africa for over a year.i live in Canada & when we met online I was recently separated. When my ex found out about this relationship he told me I was being scammed by this man. I need your opinion or advice if you can message me

    7. Diane Gregory says:

      I’m talking to a Nigerian man online, he tells me the visa is expensive to obtain in his country to come to America and that I should pay for it and apply for fiance visa for him what would be your advise

  13. Casey-lee Smith says:

    I’ve currently been dating a nigerian guy for over a year. We have moved in together. During this time his has taken another girl out on date and was very sorry by crying to me. Then later down the track I found out that his been on dating sites looking to meet up with other women. From 20-50. We are about to go through bridging but I am still wary of him. He says his changed and loves me. What do u think?

    1. Andrea Ryan says:

      Do not stay with him if you cannot trust him! Beware of his actions. If he is online and talking to other women I would dump him immediately. am currently dating a guy from Nigeria for over 7 months now online. We met in a fb dating group. When I tell you this girl, I called his phone and a woman picked up his phone several times. I asked him who it was and he completely lied and told me “oh its the network here in Nigeria”. When they lie to you amd you know they are cheating it is best to leave!

    2. My sister run for your life. That man is using your head,please don’t let anyone treat you like that. He is a bicycle wait for your limousine.

  14. In too deep says:

    I have been dating a nigeran man online for seven months. within the first month, he was telling me he loved me and that I took his heart. Around the second month, I found a profile picture of him with a different name but the same last name. Thier is a photo of him in a frame and a woman photo in a frame side by side.with the same last name. I asked him about it and he totally denies knowing the person. He said he lost his phone and that someone was using his photo from his phone to create a profile. The lady is in the state and he is still in Africa. I believed him and kept dating but all the while this is in the back of my mind. we continued our relationship and I traveled to Africa to do and engagement. We have applied for a fiancee visa, He tould me he was asking fb to take the profile down. I few months have gone by and I checked the page and it is still there. They both have some of the same friends and many of there post are the same. I reached out to the lady and asked her how did she know my fiancee needless to say she did not respond I am planning our wedding but the thought of this is still in my mind. I think I am into deep to stop everything but not sure what to do.

  15. I was involved with a guy from Nigeria said he was 29 then later told me truth after that he was 26. I’ve blocked in past but decided to check him out because he was so persisting before so I began talking to him he said to make whatsapp account.( He began tagging me in post on Facebook he would make our pictures together on facebook ) and after the 2nd day he said he would love to continue talking to me but he had no data. So he sort of pressured me to send itunes card of 100 $. made me feel bad and guilty using my Christianity against me saying Christians are supposed to help other’s. He told me he had 2 ex from California who sent him boxes of items and phones watches and money every month but they both passed away. So i sent only 50$ and after 1 week he said he needed 50 more to complete for whole month. That was more guilt trip for days. I should of known He was a con or something He then said he had to make new number and throw old phone sim card away and called from different number he swore he got rid of the old one and had only one.Then after couple weeks after meeting his family and someone he said was his niece I instantly bonded with her. He began to say after couple weeks that they and no food and had nothing to eat etc. He asked for at least 200! I sent again only 50$ . He began to say how they wanted to talk to me everyday but there phones were not good and if i could send them ALL ONE AT LEAST 3 OF THEM! I SAID NO..Then after that about week he said it was her bday and they had nothing that in had to send more money at least 300 to celebrate her bday! I sent only 50$ . Everything was good I thought . Because i would talk to the grandparents brother and cousins every day.They seemed so sincere. He met my family. Which he insisted on. and I was gonna go see everyone in Nigeria and bring the little niece ?back with me. Now finding out later that the other young girl who had a newborn baby that I met sometimes would be there when I was chatting with him and his family was actually his! And I noticed THAT one day he was actually using the number of other phone he first said he got rid of and had a girls photo as profile on what’s app. That’s how we chatted then he called from another one with a another girls picture. I even became close with his brother and would post things on my Facebook wall and chat with me. Then things start to go weird he changed Facebook accounts and took me off and had 3 different whatsapp with 2 other girls and my photos as profile. For each phone he uses to talk to each one. He would say the other girl was his sister and thats who the phones belong to because they shared sim card. Which he had many girls who he said were his family or sisters lol. Anyways now we are no longer talking because i didn’t send more money and the items and he is now posting pictures on his Facebook of another different new girl doing same thing he did with me and said he don’t want me anymore because he wasn’t gonna die poor. The people who he was saying were related to him weren’t even. The boy i got close with was not his brother he was in on it. They loved together so he was aware. There’s so much more but I’m thankful that I stopped before I ended up over there and stuck in bigger mess.i pray for the new girls he’s playing. He and these people would use God’s name and swear that I was the only one! How can these people claim to be religious and be conning me this whole time. I’m so heartbroken because in really bonded and loved them all since AFRICA has always been close to my heart in which i wanted to do orphanage work there for very long. So hurt the way they all talked to when I confronted him and they declined my calls and messages

    1. Really sorry you went through all that. There over 180 million Nigerians, about 30% don’t even have access to the internet and over 80% are good people. The mayhem you see on the internet are wrought by undergraduate college students and youths. They are not even up to 1% of the population who engage in this sort of activities. I would advice you run the moment they start talking about money. It wouldn’t end well.

  16. Christy Brown says:

    Hi,I need some advice.I recently met a Nigerian man on a dating site.Since meeting we both have deleted our profile from that dating site.He told me if he just wanted papers its a women that like him that he told me about that wants to marry him now,but that’s not what he wants he wants a women like me a Christian.See I question his intentions alot and try to find out if theres a motive.and I think he has been honest with me so far.but I’m still having doubts,He told me is a Christian man ,told me upfront he is in the U S for 2years on a Visa.H e wants to find a good woman to date and if possible marry.We have met we went out on a few dates together.He works.We talk on phone he showed me were he live.he live with his sister ,I met her.We talk alot about his cultures and I ask him many questions because I’m cautious of the things I here about them.He tells me he love everything about me , Im a Christian woman as well so he says were like-minded he tells me he wants to marry me he wants us to have a home ECT..I told him it’s going to take time for me to get to know you more before I can marry him.He says he is divorced and had 3 kids in Africa.My thing is I’m concerned that he lied and he is still married.He is trying to convince me that he not and that he wants a better life for himself here in US.He says only thing he do is take care of his children he sends them money.i hope this enough information for you tell me if I’m being used or is he a sincere guy looking to o settle down with one wive.We talk on the phone pretty often when he is not working.I really like the guy just guarding my heart . Thank you

  17. I am married to a nigerian igbo man for the last 2 yrs. He had 2 kids and their mother was in nigeria. He originally told me they were coming to visit. Now i am being told they are staying permanently. He wants me to register his kids in school. I am not sure about this and how everything happened without notice.

  18. Zanita Reed says:

    I really like my Nigerian Man. I never think the worse in him. He is amazing. He puts up with me..God bless him for that. I am shocked at all the stereotypes and negativity that are out there though..every culture group has some issues…I hope we continue to grow in love.

  19. I was in a relationship with a Nigerian that already has his green card. With him it was hard to get to the bottom of the truth because it was covered with lies. When we first met he never mentioned that he was still married and when I found out he told me that I never asked but the subject did come up before. He married a woman to obtain a green card he later admitted. But the whole time I was with them it was just a series of lies and the lies lead to arguments and fights. When we met he told me he had been living with his uncle who I never met. Later on in the relationship I asked him how come I’ve never met his uncle and he told me that his uncle move back to Nigeria. That was a red flag for me because what man from Nigeria would move back there if we have the choice. I later found out that he was living with his wife when he met me. I relationship went downhill so he decided to move out without telling me. He waited until we went on vacation packed up all his items and left without even breaking it off with me. After that it made me not want to trust another African man it also made me not want to even trust another Nigerian man. So now I’m talking to a man from Nigeria and no matter how much he tells me he loves me and how much I mean to him I still feel like he is lying. I still feel like he just wants me so he can have citizenship. There is no doubt in my mind that he is a great man but the man that came before him made me lose hope in having true love with anyone from Nigeria.

  20. Wow, these comments are a bit overwhelming. I feel that I am more skeptical now after reading than I was before. This is my first time interacting with a Nigerian man. I’ve never trusted due to stories I’ve heard from past. A much younger Nigerian man has caught my attention. We have been communicating for 2 1/2 months. He’s charming very friendly sweet funny sexy attractive and spiritual. We talk every day at least 2 times a day sometimes 3. There was only one day where we didn’t communicate and that was because he was having issues with the phone. He has asked me to help buy him a phone because the one he was using broke. I was furious and tearful that he would ask. It was bringing up my fears that he just wanted to use me. Though, my heart wants to believe his purity. I continue to look for loop holes or a black hole. We’ve talked openly about my concerns and fears. So far, he hasn’t really given me reason to doubt. My insecurities hinder me at times. One thing I try to remember is to not judge someone because on someone else mistakes or bad behavior. He is his own person and should have the fair opportunity to show who he is as an individual. Though, I struggle. I truly want to enjoy this young man. Therefore, I have opened my heart and welcomed him into my life.

    1. There are lots of good guys, infact, 90 person of Nigerian men are great. White women just love falling for bad guys.

  21. This Nigerian guy was using the name of a soldier on Instagram and after many questions he said his name was Derek. He said he owned his own phone business in Nigeria and I think that’s a lie. He asked for $200 in I tune cards he say to check his bid coins. Keep professing his love and want me to come to Nigeria He’s a scammer

  22. My person did ask for the itune cards…got only one…asked about my bank so his check can be deposited when he come here….professing he love me and he’s a christian man.

  23. I’m in the US and have been dating a man online, (social media, video chatting, etc.) for almost a year. He seems so great. He says he love me and I love him too. He’s never asked for anything. But I’ve offered and have given A LOT. He’s very poor. But he’s shown me everything, passports, his family and community. I am considering traveling there to marry him. Yes I hear the stories, but mine is so different because he hasn’t appeared to be scamming or using fake names/information. He claims to have been married before but the girl left and remarried. He gets up daily to work the farm and appears to have a good work ethic, but claims there are no jobs in his part of Nigeria. He says he came across my page in a group and was instantly attracted. Then fell in love from there. He has his ways being Nigerian, but overall seems like an awesome guy. How can I know if being nice and not asking for anything is just another way to get money or citizenship because he knows my heart is good? How can I know if this is real? How can i know if he plans to actually come to America, get employed and make a better life for himself and us? I need to know..

    1. All of these stories are do close to home for me but for some reason or another I feel that maybe you are deceived. I am talking to a Nigerian man social media. Video chat text for 6 months now . He has pass port and a daughter always wants me to talk with them. He’s yourba demon run for your like. Currently in 2019 I am still talking chatting. How did your story turn out.

  24. Omg same story here with the video chat and all.. but he has NEVER asked me for money or anything. It’s always the other way around. He makes sure I’m ok if I need anything which is not much either cause I handle myself quite well… but he does want to get married when I visit him , & I feel that it’s too soon… he seems sincere … idk I just wish to know that if citizenship is all he want , then he should just say that.. I’m really falling for him … hard… lol they’re such sweet talkers lol . He’s already paid for my passport and all. & today he asked for my ring size.. I’m just really confused …

  25. omg same story here but I have been talking to mine for a year now it was a year October 24th… I have really fell for him hard he is so sweet and loving… I’m so confused

  26. I’ve had my experiences with Nigerian men in America and over seas and what I know is they move quickly when It comes to dating. Meaning I usually hear I love you after the first couple of dates (with american Nigerian) . Which leads me to believe that when it comes to dating doesn’t matter where a person is from, if that man is sincerely interested in you he will want you to be his woman. But the problem is there are a lot out there who are just looking for a green card, and some who’s just ready to settle down and have a family. It’s kinda hard to tell the difference between the two because they say all the same things. I’m currently dating one now and he’s a business owner and doesn’t need anything from me. He wants to help me out with finances so my question is what is the safest way for him to send me money without me giving out my banking info?

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