Nigerian men treat their wives as second in command, they expect their women to be there for them, answer when they call and they always want to make the final decision… be the man
For a woman… not knowing how to cook is a serious crime in Nigeria.

Men in Nigeria believe that a woman is responsible if she is good with domestic works while the ones with very little knowledge and domestic know-how are considered irresponsible
Nigerian Men
A Nigerian boy is expected to leave his father’s house at most by the age of 30, fend for himself and build his own home. If he fails to do so, he would be regarded as an irresponsible man in his own community; Nigerian men are expected to be independent by thirty at most.

A Nigerian man is very hard-working compared to his counterparts in Diaspore because

1. The average Nigerian man believes in a family and the men are expected to take up all the bills at home.

2. The man runs the home irrespective of ‘how much’ the wife is worth.

The Nigerian man is a natural hustler, they go out in the morning and come back in the evening, they don’t usually get fed up with wealth acquisition, that is the one thing American women seem to like so much about Nigerian men, – That they take responsibility and make sure their family as well as their woman is well taken care of.

One said “I love the way African men love their children it is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen, but I can see the boys are more spoiled, that is the truth.”

Find out more juicy Tips About Girls From Nigeria

If you do a search on the internet about “Nigerian men” you would come across very few positive comments and loads of negative stuff about Men from Nigeria, like they are domineering, you hear things like “Nigerian guys are naturally dishonest!,” you will hear the good and you will also hear the bad things about men from western African. Well, I guess that comes with life

But the main question is – Why Nigerian guys in Diaspore go home to marry the accredited innocent and yet un-spoiled girl back in their country instead of the white chick they have been cuddling all year long??

The simple answer to that question is – because they don’t like an independent woman. African men believe that independent women and women with western upbringing are already spoiled and finds it very difficult to cope as tradition demands

Like going into the kitchen everyday to prepare his favorite recipe or give it to them the way they want it on bed. African men in general see the women as a helper who they have to love, pamper and dominate and they want her to remain thus, not another bread winner or some sort of competition.

Clubbing, excessive partying, alcohol is considered highly indecent for a Nigerian wife while the white woman considers them a sort of get-away.
The simple Nigerian girl is willing to submit and be a real wife to an African man, by so doing she enjoys unhindered love and lavish that she initially never bargained for. That’s why a man from Nigeria can fly several miles back home to bring her over, after of course several trial and errors with the white chicks.

A Nigerian women finds savorable love in humility, a quality that Nigerian men are yet to find in women with western upbringing.

Most of the negative things you hear about Nigerian/black men are from white/American women who tell stories of how they got their heart broken and how ruthless heartless they find Nigerian men. I am a Nigerian guy and I don’t care whether you are white, black or even pink once you have the qualities I want in a woman, I am off to the alter with you.

And that brings me to yet another tip about Men from Nigerian – They prefer church wedding to court marriage, in fact, only about 2 percent of all couples in Nigeria had court marriage, the rest follow the normal trend, – introduction, traditional and then church wedding no court nothing.

Dating Nigerian Men

Here is where it goes wrong most of the times… dating a Nigerian guy, white women often find it difficult to cope, they think we are domineering and demanding. Well, that is because we were pretty spoilt back home, In Nigeria, we think the main responsibility of a man is to pay the bills, we can pay all the bill and even more but we don’t wash no dishes, we don’t change no diapers, we pay someone to do that if our wife is gainfully employed.

Women from the western world got “ego” and that is simply why Nigerian men don’t marry far away from home.

Most of the American/European women that are successfully dating Nigerian men either had to adjust or get him to shrink a little bit but that is not always easy, we rather turn the other way than get squeezed a little bit and that is the hard truth.

But frankly, you can date and marry a handsome Nigerian guy any day if you are willing and able to be a good wife.

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  1. JamieCag  January 8, 2019

    Hey. I sent a screenshot. Did you get it?

  2. Lisa  January 26, 2019

    If Nigerian men don’t like independent women and want to dominant the relationship, then WHY date an American woman. American women are independent, outspoken, well spoken and are not going to live like that.

    • b.Freed  March 20, 2019

      My girlfriend is with a Nigerian guy. He says he cannot get visa and the only way they can get married is she come to Nigeria and marry him. Is this true?

      • Tanya  May 6, 2019

        Not true, I’m going through the same situation now

      • Daodu David  September 6, 2019

        Very true because getting American visa is very difficult unless she come to nigeria and take him back to America

  3. Liss  January 26, 2019

    I hear that Nigerian men live a double life. They want to use American women for what they can get (a visa)and then go back to Nigeria and marry a Nigerian woman. No woman wants to live with a liar. Do us a favor and stay with your own kind. Why Lie? If you want a submissive woman, stay with your own and leave everybody alone. We are raised very differently. 2 different coutries, 2 different cultures. You cant chsnge us and you wont.

    • kehinde peter  May 19, 2019

      if you’re ready to stay with me in Nigeria why won’t I marry you? Coming to the state might be difficult.

  4. Yaya  March 7, 2019

    I have a baby with a Nigerian man and I love this guys too much cause he take care of his child and i have no complains when it comes to his child…the problem is with me he doesn’t show love or affection to me, he goes out all the time his always busy on his phone texting and calling God knows who,girls calls her in thr early hours of the morning…we just don’t communicate at all i ended up breaking things off with him….is the a possibility that we might work things out cause i miss him big time…He already said to me he moved on with his life

    I’m hurt and i love him too much but he doesn’t see that

    • Tanya  May 6, 2019

      You are definitely making me think , my Nigerian boyfriend just pop the question and I’m scared to except and he wants babies. That’s all he talks about is starting a family.

      • Nichole  July 21, 2019

        In order for any realitionship to work out no matter what the culture difference is, you both have to want most of the same things in life. You need to time to think of what that is for you, tell him so. If you don’t want the same things then end it now. Otherwise it will end in worse heartbreak in the long run. It’s harsh, but it’s true. You both have to want the same things in order to commit to each other

  5. Angel T  April 7, 2019

    @ Lisa and Liss…take a chill pill.
    Have u heard of the term called ‘survival instinct’
    Nigerian men comes with good qualities (no to drugs, love families, God fearing etc). Dont u expect that with no price. All those qualities plus independent women is like a slave. Get that right please!
    You want someone that wont hurt you physically except with his 6 to 9 inches (bbc) and still want to make terms. I don’t think u guys need to bargain when all you bring to the table is visa. Please dont get hurt cus all my friends are ballers!!!!! Hahaha

    • Elizabeth  April 16, 2019

      Ladies, let me tell you a little story, Our western world has change significant. We use to do everything like a Nigerian woman do, the cleaning, cooking, taking care of the children our man when he comes home his favorite hot meal is ready to be served, a massage after a hot shower etc. The problem is that we are very vocal we are also the bread winner so we tend think or want our man to pitch in and help with house work or cook once in a while. If you love your man you would win him over and he will treat you like a Queen. However Liss situation may be different it sounds like he wasn’t in love with you.

    • ELIZABETH  April 17, 2019

      Its so sad to hear, that women of all culture treat other woman so disrespectful , we are all the same weather your black, white, yellow, pink. All men want the same, a wild passionate women in bed, but a mother figure, wify out side there bedroom. If us American woman is offering a visa to bring someone over is because of the love they feel for that person, also is the poverty in their county. Don’t be a HATER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  6. JS420mom  May 27, 2019

    Married 14 years to a nigerian man. Always provides. Loves and provides for out 2 boys, doesnt sneak around. Gainfully self employed, is legal here. And very content with it all. Of course we have tiffs and arguments no abuse and we work things out. Yes i stay at home n care for it all. Cook clean kids all of it. He does fix things and takes out trash n helps me get a break from things so i dont burn out. Awesome guy!

    • DD  June 21, 2019

      Are you African American?

    • Girl from the philippines  August 6, 2019

      I have a nigerian boyfriend and he wants me to be independent woman, i think he has different girlfiends all over the world. He liked girls so much. What can you advise to me if he want us to marry because i’m afraid of having this man with different girlfriends all over the world. I like to be the only woman in his life.

  7. Victor  June 15, 2019

    this is for you Lisa and you need to understand this okay, it not possibly for all Nigerian to be a deceiver or a liar okay even in your country there are also peoples who lies as well there are good Nigerian that you can enjoy, we Nigerian are the most people who care for their love once and family. please stop judging Nigerian okay.

    • Teah  July 21, 2019

      I am a white woman who just married a Nigerian man. He is the most wonderful beautiful person I have ever met. And I have been around the block a few times. And my exhusband or any boyfriend’s I had, don’t even compare.

  8. Teah  July 21, 2019

    I am a white woman who just married a Nigerian man. He is the most wonderful beautiful person I have ever met. And I have been around the block a few times. And my exhusband or any boyfriend’s I had, don’t even compare.

  9. Charlotte Singh  August 28, 2019

    Nigerian men are very bossy and demanding
    They are unaffectionate and show no love


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