Nigerian men treat their wives as second in command, they expect their women to be there for them, answer when they call and they always want to make the final decision…
They always want to… be the man
For a woman… not knowing how to cook is a serious crime in Nigeria.
Men in Nigeria believe that a woman is responsible if she is good with domestic works while the ones with very little knowledge and domestic know-how are considered irresponsible
A Nigerian boy is expected to leave his father’s house at most by the age of 30, fend for himself and build his own home. If he fails to do so, he would be regarded as an irresponsible man in his own community; Nigerian men are expected to be independent by thirty at most.
A Nigerian man is very hard-working compared to his counterparts in Diaspore because
1. The average Nigerian man believes in a family and the men are expected to take up all the bills at home.
2. The man runs the home irrespective of ‘how much’ the wife is worth.
The Nigerian man is a natural hustler, they go out in the morning and come back in the evening, they don’t usually get fed up with wealth acquisition, that is the one thing American women seem to like so much about Nigerian men, – That they take responsibility and make sure their family as well as their woman is well taken care of.
One said “I love the way African men love their children it is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen, but I can see the boys are more spoiled, that is the truth.”
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If you do a search on the internet about “Nigerian men” you would come across very few positive comments and loads of negative stuff about Men from Nigeria, like they are domineering, you hear things like “Nigerian guys are naturally dishonest!,” you will hear the good and you will also hear the bad things about men from western African. Well, I guess that comes with life
But the main question is – Why Nigerian guys in Diaspore go home to marry the accredited innocent and yet un-spoiled girl back in their country instead of the white chick they have been cuddling all year long??
The simple answer to that question is – because they don’t like an independent woman. African men believe that independent women and women with western upbringing are already spoiled and finds it very difficult to cope as tradition demands
Like going into the kitchen everyday to prepare his favorite recipe or give it to them the way they want it on bed. African men in general see the women as a helper who they have to love, pamper and dominate and they want her to remain thus, not another bread winner or some sort of competition.
Clubbing, excessive partying, alcohol is considered highly indecent for a Nigerian wife while the white woman considers them a sort of get-away.
The simple Nigerian girl is willing to submit and be a real wife to an African man, by so doing she enjoys unhindered love and lavish that she initially never bargained for. That’s why a man from Nigeria can fly several miles back home to bring her over, after of course several trial and errors with the white chicks.
A Nigerian women finds savorable love in humility, a quality that Nigerian men are yet to find in women with western upbringing.
Most of the negative things you hear about Nigerian/black men are from white/American women who tell stories of how they got their heart broken and how ruthless heartless they find Nigerian men. I am a Nigerian guy and I don’t care whether you are white, black or even pink once you have the qualities I want in a woman, I am off to the alter with you.
And that brings me to yet another tip about Men from Nigerian – They prefer church wedding to court marriage, in fact, only about 2 percent of all couples in Nigeria had court marriage, the rest follow the normal trend, – introduction, traditional and then church wedding no court nothing.
Dating Nigerian Men
Here is where it goes wrong most of the times… most white women never learn how to deal with Nigerian men in relationship, so they keep getting it wrong.
Dating a Nigerian guy, white women often find it difficult to cope, they think we are domineering and demanding. Well, that is because we were pretty spoilt back home, In Nigeria, we think the main responsibility of a man is to pay the bills, we can pay all the bill and even more but we don’t wash no dishes, we don’t change no diapers, we pay someone to do that if our wife is gainfully employed.
Women from the western world got “ego” and that is simply why Nigerian men don’t marry far away from home.
Most of the American/European women that are successfully dating Nigerian men either had to adjust or get him to shrink a little bit but that is not always easy, we rather turn the other way than get squeezed a little bit and that is the hard truth.
But frankly, you can date and marry a handsome Nigerian guy any day if you are willing and able to be a good wife.
Lastly, there is a whole lot to be said about Nigerian men and relationship, Nigerian is the world capital of the church, we all go to church and read bible. There are basic principles enshrined in the bible to govern marriages. We could all look it up sometimes.
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Perhaps writer was speaking from his personal experiences or those closest to him.
So I don’t know who wrote this article. But I’m a black yong women from California and I dated a Nigerian, I asked to see his divorce papers I also asked to see his TB testing before we have sex. It’s been 5 months and have not saw nothing. He is mean I’ve kept my distance he started off so sweet, but started to be mean and controlling. Majority people at work calls him mean and rude. Management has issues with him because he don’t like directions. Sense I separated myself from him, don’t know how to move on. He sends me rude texts calls a million times a day, he even went as far as to follow me after work. He drove to my job and waited till I got off and followed me to my destination. So I called the police. We were never a couple. But he calls his self a Christian but was stocking me and harrassing me. Calling me really bad names and than next day will send me sweet texts. I have not blocked him or responded. Because the police station told me I can use all these messages at court. So my heart was never broke, it was always something I felt off about him. When i saw him being serious with me bring his child around me when I told him I don’t want to meet his child. He still had not showed me divorce papers. So with that said I feel he is crazy and I will never date a Nigerian men every again.
Sorry about that madam. You should have taking your time to know more about him before offering yourself to him for a date.
I want neither,they are complicated! ! They also prey on American women,like getting money out of us.
I went through the same thing! He was so sweet in the beginning and after a year started accusing me of other men and calling me really bad names ! He ran up my airline credit card buying tickets for other women! When I finally caught on to him he became irate and blocked me from all contact! I was left with a 3k Bill! He was evil and had a very dark soul! But I’m glad he’s out of my life for good! Never ever Nigerian! Thank you God for moving him out of my life!!!
This is such a brutally honest article. I’m white, dating a Nigerian man. I wasn’t spoiled by a long shot (he says I think like an African). However, I was shocked when I came to visit his family, only to find that the men did absolutely nothing, while the women did everything in the household. Fortunately, I wasn’t raised with this mindset. Yes, humility is a virtue. But a MAN who is also humble is the most attractive in my eyes; Willing to “step down” and help those he loves with the things he doesn’t necessarily enjoy doing. I basically came to the conclusion that Nigerian men (generally speaking) just want something pretty to look at that they can CONTROL (which is essentially the same thing as slavery).
You know nothing about salvery white chick so do not insult my ancestors with that ridiculous comparison!!
And you do? Black or white or whatever color you are…people seem to think that they know all about slavery. Honey. You didn’t go through just the same as she didn’t. So no need to make rude comments about it. Slavery is in the past. People still get treated different and that is fd up but slavery is in the past. You know nothing same as the other chick
Nooo u got it wrong all the need is dignity(respect). U will cee them being humble
Hi I am white too and I am dating a nigerian man he is the sweetest man I could ever have I mean he is the first person I dated and it has been 10 months and I am still with him and he calls me his ravishing princess or his goddess but he also calls me babe, bae or love, my love, sunshine nd he always listens to what I have to say and he is intelligent and he uses strong words he means everything to me and he loves me so much but sadly we have not met in person yet but we are going to.
(P.S. Feel free to talk to me, I am taking classes to become a police officer so yeah but just to tell you I love all sorts of people no matter what they are they can be rainbow and I still love them you are never a problem for me.)
Are there any handsome Nigerian men?!? I’ve never seen one…
Yes it is the one I had was very charming!
Definitely loads of handsome Nigerian men
My Nigerian man definitely
Yes
Yes I have a nigerian boyfriend and his name is Justus Henry Tochukwu and he is the best.
Not all Nigerian men, maybe a very small percentage.
I’m an African American woman on my second Nigerian husband and my third will likely also be Nigerian (joke). First marriage was just a mistake we were incompatible, but my second one we’ve been together for 10 years and he’s an atypical Nigerian husband I’d say. He cooks, cleans, shares responsibility, dotes on our son, and is gentle and loving.
I’ve been married 1 time to a Nigerian. Years ago. Today I’m with another one been with him almost a year. And yes as all men of any race try to play the control game. But I’m a strong black southern woman and don’t allow that. And yes it have become tiresome. Some are use to more. Naive in uneducated woman with no self esteem.
Thanks for sharing, I’m considering a man that I like. This is a real tough decision, and scary cause I been alone many years and I love the way he treats me and talks to me.
I am married to a Nigerian man but feel like I’ve made a mistake. I don’t know what to do.
Same with me, I made a mistake marrying a Nigerian, he seems heartless n always aggressive
I just found out that I have a sm percentage of Nigerian blood. How muchmustI have to be considered nigerian
I’m from the UK
And i have a Nigerian man, we’ve been together 2 years and he treats me with so much respect
He has never came across controlling he’s just the opposite so loving and caring.
I could never go out with a white man again
I honestly think that people are putting a “tag” on people. Nigerian or not…you may have different ways about you and different ways you were raised. Different cultures. But ultimately what it boils down to is we all are same blood. Different but same blood. And each person is diffferent. A Nigerian man can be mean and controlling same as a white man. And a Mexican can wanna sleep around with 5 women same as a white man. Everyone has something good and bad about them. Some men from all different colors and nations and tribes are mean and some aren’t. Same as the women.
That’s it. Nigerian men want to control everything. Even my message is awaiting approval to be published.
I really don’t think the problem is with the men in your own case, I think you have a serious issue that need sorting out. You plan to go through life unchecked? doing whatever you like.
I think Nigerians are stupid, angry and very emotional I met one and I say they’re no good with relationships. I could say they’re not good at anything.
There are over 180 million Nigerians, don’t make such generalization please. I noticed that often you guys are attracted to the bad guys. You meet a man in a strip club and you expect him to be a saint? Stuff like that. Take your time to study a man before commuting, spend time courting each other. If you avoid certain principles you get bitten.
you couldn’t control him (smile) … Latasha Hall american rude ghetto girl he just didn’t want you seriously .. you were just a belly warmer on bed hun …
Lol
So because of one ☝ Nigerian,you have justified and classified all Nigerians as stupid,angry and too emotional.
Thank you for say that,the fact is that you don’t know anything about us,just drop the name of your country and hear what people will say…
We are angry because we were used.
We’re emotionally because we have love for mankind.
We’re what you call stupid because you think you know it all,but I bet you,a full time Nja boy go use u shine 50-2=48 like you Latasha Hall…
You met one in around 60,000, 000 and making such a generalisation you must be daft and extremely ignorant.
Tell me where in the world that is any different generally people are the same grouping often along the lines of socio-economic status. Education and exposure. You need to question why you were attracted to the lowest common denominator I guess it says a lot about you after all birds of the same feather flock together.
I just started dating a Nagerian man. I think he’s amazing. Such a great personality on him. How ever I know nothing about there culture and traditions. He’s been very patient with me and my constant questions. I have a hard time with the accent. Lol How ever I would really like more advice and I formation about the tribal traditions, I don’t know what’s proper behavior or taboos easpcally in the bedroom.
I’m dating one as well he is just precious.
So why don’t you just ask him?
I completely understand what you are saying, but the most important thing you forgot is love and respect. Once we have the two I would comit to doing anything for u.
Not all western women are like that. I was raised to take care of the house (cook, clean, etc). I’m Christian, so I believe the man is the head of the family. I still live with my parents, and probably will until I’m married. Although, the are some minor differences, when I hear about what African woman are like, there are many similarities I share with them – and I’m not the only one 🙂
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No wonder he just leaves the dishes for me even when he’s just sleeping and I just got off work changing the baby’s diaper. Tsk
I have been friends with a few Nigerian men as a mixed (black, white) woman. I am NOT your normal American woman where I want to be domineering. I am a God fearing woman and I believe in the “true” creation roles that God has given us.
I will say, all of the Nigerian men that I have been friends with have been caught in lies even though they professed to be “christians” and god-fearing etc. I am not saying EVERY SINGLE one is like that, but it’s super sad that the ones that have “friend requested” me and we have become friends all start off the same…and slowly I find little things they’ve lied about. I will have to agree with whomever said that ‘most’ are liars (which is why most women try dating outside America.). But for that.. you can just stick with a lying American and save your time and money lol.
I’ve been seeing a Nigerian man for little over a month now and honestly it’s like we’ve known each other for years. He’s wonderful and very patient with me. But we live far from each other. What bothers me is that a few times now he has been accusing me of seeing other men, or berating me like a child. I have a very submissive nature and love a dominating man but this freaks me out a little as I’ve never been treated this way before. After we argue, we make up pretty quickly and he deads the issue, never to be discussed again. What do I make of this? My friends say I should leave but I don’t know…
Stay clear of this man.Nigerians are very controlling and lack respect for women especially American women.They feel they are Kings and a woman must submit.
ofcourse women must submit.God designed it from the very start.men were born to be the leader, protector provider of the family. and now what is the role of a women? to be their partner, help them..support them, entertain them, love them.I m not saying here that men should abuse their power and bully their women.That is unacceptable.In a relationship,one must be dominant and the other should be submissive.a leader and a follower, that’s how things works.We are not all leaders, if all of us are leaders, who are the followers then?there is no leader if there is no follower.got it?just accept the fact that women are queens not Kings.The men hold that tittle.And I’m telling you, that’s what our God want, I am very sure of it.
You are such a darling. full of wisdom.
My friend is Nigerian, he is great person. He married and has 2 kids and always take good care of them. Just his negative point is he cheating on his wife and he is with me.
I’m talking to one as well he’s the most humble and loving man very respectful and appreciate what I have to say I adore everything about him.
Hey. I sent a screenshot. Did you get it?
If Nigerian men don’t like independent women and want to dominant the relationship, then WHY date an American woman. American women are independent, outspoken, well spoken and are not going to live like that.
My girlfriend is with a Nigerian guy. He says he cannot get visa and the only way they can get married is she come to Nigeria and marry him. Is this true?
Not true, I’m going through the same situation now
Very true because getting American visa is very difficult unless she come to nigeria and take him back to America
It is depending on what she wants
Nigerian men get visas to come to America for college, work, etc. Most come to America to marry.
I hear that Nigerian men live a double life. They want to use American women for what they can get (a visa)and then go back to Nigeria and marry a Nigerian woman. No woman wants to live with a liar. Do us a favor and stay with your own kind. Why Lie? If you want a submissive woman, stay with your own and leave everybody alone. We are raised very differently. 2 different coutries, 2 different cultures. You cant chsnge us and you wont.
if you’re ready to stay with me in Nigeria why won’t I marry you? Coming to the state might be difficult.
I have a baby with a Nigerian man and I love this guys too much cause he take care of his child and i have no complains when it comes to his child…the problem is with me he doesn’t show love or affection to me, he goes out all the time his always busy on his phone texting and calling God knows who,girls calls her in thr early hours of the morning…we just don’t communicate at all i ended up breaking things off with him….is the a possibility that we might work things out cause i miss him big time…He already said to me he moved on with his life
I’m hurt and i love him too much but he doesn’t see that
You are definitely making me think , my Nigerian boyfriend just pop the question and I’m scared to except and he wants babies. That’s all he talks about is starting a family.
In order for any realitionship to work out no matter what the culture difference is, you both have to want most of the same things in life. You need to time to think of what that is for you, tell him so. If you don’t want the same things then end it now. Otherwise it will end in worse heartbreak in the long run. It’s harsh, but it’s true. You both have to want the same things in order to commit to each other
Me too I have a Nigerian mums almost for 3 years now he’s starting datings but always you treat me well now you asking me for me to give him a kids and I’m afraid to because I used to talk to him through the phones at 6 now we never meet each other and I need someone to help me please cuz you say you want to marry me
Love Yourself and Your Child…If He Truly Honored You, You wouldn’t have those issues…GOD wants you to be LOVED correctly…if being with someone causes you suffering its better for you to be single and in GODS timing HE will give you someone you can trust!! If A Man Doesn’t Carefully and Intentionally Love You, Then Let Him Go….You are better off!! It hurts but it will hurt more if you stay!!!!
@ Lisa and Liss…take a chill pill.
Have u heard of the term called ‘survival instinct’
Nigerian men comes with good qualities (no to drugs, love families, God fearing etc). Dont u expect that with no price. All those qualities plus independent women is like a slave. Get that right please!
You want someone that wont hurt you physically except with his 6 to 9 inches (bbc) and still want to make terms. I don’t think u guys need to bargain when all you bring to the table is visa. Please dont get hurt cus all my friends are ballers!!!!! Hahaha
Peace..out
Ladies, let me tell you a little story, Our western world has change significant. We use to do everything like a Nigerian woman do, the cleaning, cooking, taking care of the children our man when he comes home his favorite hot meal is ready to be served, a massage after a hot shower etc. The problem is that we are very vocal we are also the bread winner so we tend think or want our man to pitch in and help with house work or cook once in a while. If you love your man you would win him over and he will treat you like a Queen. However Liss situation may be different it sounds like he wasn’t in love with you.
Its so sad to hear, that women of all culture treat other woman so disrespectful , we are all the same weather your black, white, yellow, pink. All men want the same, a wild passionate women in bed, but a mother figure, wify out side there bedroom. If us American woman is offering a visa to bring someone over is because of the love they feel for that person, also is the poverty in their county. Don’t be a HATER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Married 14 years to a nigerian man. Always provides. Loves and provides for out 2 boys, doesnt sneak around. Gainfully self employed, is legal here. And very content with it all. Of course we have tiffs and arguments no abuse and we work things out. Yes i stay at home n care for it all. Cook clean kids all of it. He does fix things and takes out trash n helps me get a break from things so i dont burn out. Awesome guy!
Are you African American?
I have a nigerian boyfriend and he wants me to be independent woman, i think he has different girlfiends all over the world. He liked girls so much. What can you advise to me if he want us to marry because i’m afraid of having this man with different girlfriends all over the world. I like to be the only woman in his life.
this is for you Lisa and you need to understand this okay, it not possibly for all Nigerian to be a deceiver or a liar okay even in your country there are also peoples who lies as well there are good Nigerian that you can enjoy, we Nigerian are the most people who care for their love once and family. please stop judging Nigerian okay.
I am a white woman who just married a Nigerian man. He is the most wonderful beautiful person I have ever met. And I have been around the block a few times. And my exhusband or any boyfriend’s I had, don’t even compare.
This is true. Im currently dating a nigerian man and believe me he has been so good to me!!
Be careful cause Nigerian men change their mind quickly. I had been dating one for six to seven months I’m black and he had been good and caring . We just got married a month ago and he’s already changing , I love him but I guess it’s just in their nature to be changeable . At this point I don’t know if we have a marriage or not , but he was so caring at first. Also they love women . He never disrespect me .
I am a white woman who just married a Nigerian man. He is the most wonderful beautiful person I have ever met. And I have been around the block a few times. And my exhusband or any boyfriend’s I had, don’t even compare.
Nigerian men are very bossy and demanding
They are unaffectionate and show no love
Charlotte Singh, this for you, if you think that Nigerian men are very bossy and demanding, I would like you to properly examine yourself and see where you are lacking as well,.
Nigerian men are most hard working and loving husband you could have, except you want him to always do the house cleaning and show no respect at all to him.
I’m a Afro American woman who is married to a Nigerian man and he is very loving, affectionate, and hard-working. He is not bossy or demanding. Just because you had one bad experience you can’t generalize all Nigerian men.
I would love to marry a man from Nigeria. I think this article is beautiful, especially the part about Nigerian men and relationship, it’s exactly what I believe. if you love each other or enjoy each other and want the same things especially a family, then why wait. an amazing culture.
So much comparison to white woman as if there are they only other women in america. Smh